For example: a mother coming for the problem that his son is overweight and doesn't make enough exercises . I asked her what it would be different for her if her son would make the exercises to find the preferred future, but i feel stuck at the precursors of solution and the scale question... should I approach the situation from her point of view? how did he contribute to help him do more sports ? because I talk with her not with him...what do you recommend? if the colleagues know the answer I am more then happy to receive answers from them also! Thanks!